How many times have you been upset with your child’s behavior and felt regret from the way you handled it?
"The time real distinction is between Each child is different and responds uniquely to discipline approaches. Discipline is not about punishment; it is about teaching children to make the right choice.
option that which your goals are with your children. Write these down and read them often to align your discipline style with what you are trying to teach your children.
- Laid back and lenient
- Strict and regimented
- Supportive and loving
- Rules and structure
- Involved and engaged
Yelling or criticizing children closes them off to communicating why they did what they did and leads to low self-worth.
Disciplining without a quality relationship leads a child to act out and have underdeveloped relationship skills.
Disciplining with a warning teaches children that their behaviors have consequences.
Encouraging your children leads to long-term positive change.
If you discipline your children without teaching them a better option, then they will repeat the same unacceptable behavior when they are in that situation again.
Reacting to your children using anger, impatience, or intolerance teaches them to disconnect from their inner guidance and become guarded in their relationships.
Be confident with the rules you set for your children, so they feel secure with you as their parent. Many parents want their children to like them. Children are not going to like being disciplined! Adults don’t like being disciplined either. However, discipline trains us to become our best self. This process is not easy, but it is for our highest good.
Not carrying out the action you say leads children to have weak boundaries with themselves and others. It teaches your children that they don’t need to honor what they say they are going to do.
Not taking time outs when you are upset leads children to be reactive, rather than role modeling managing your emotions in healthy ways.
As your children get older ask them if they think you are a good parent. Ask them how you could be a better parent to them. Ask them what they like and don’t like about the way you parent them. Your children can share information that helps you become a better parent, because how you parent leaves a permanent imprint on their lives.
success and ability to govern themselves.